Yes, it's not pretty getting laid off as more and more people are finding out today. On top of the rejection one feels, regardless of the circumstances, when you're sober, you have to worry about falling back into a self deprecation trap. I saw it this past weekend, noticed myself staring into space and looking to retreat on the couch in sheer panic.
Regardless of the fact that I am worried about the job market, finances, leaving a place I called home for years, there is opportunity in this process.
For the first time in years, I have had five days with little thoughts of work (where I had previously been consumed by every detail). I've done the radio, climbed rocks, taken my dog on a hike and given myself a reprieve from the hard work I've done for many many years. I've gotten on my bike and felt the wind.
Below, I've listed as many positives things about losing your job that I've experienced, conjured up in my head for fear of losing it and just thought of over the last days of analyzing everything:
- This a good time for re-invention (I mean, the job you had may not be the one you do again) both personally and professionally
- Don't dwell. After trying to figure out what happened, I finally realized that I would never be able to find answers to unanswerable questions.
- Take care of yourself. I found the first three days was easy to stop all things that were good for me, including taking a shower. Not such a good thing for anyone else in your life or yourself. This is the time to be good to yourself as there are things that are beyond our control.
- Contact EVERYONE you know. This is a good time for networking.
- Develop short term and long term goals. Even in a time of uncertainty, writing out goals will help. I currently have about four pages written.
- Re-evaluate what you need to live. Does having wifi connected to an iphone matter? Where are the savings in your life?
- Whatever you do, don't stop. Every morning I get up at the same time I did when I was commuting into the city and I just do anything to keep a routine.
- And think about the bigger picture. At some point, we will work again.