Wednesday, August 03, 2005

Crossroads.

Many times in life, many times in sobriety we hit crossroads in our lives. How do we define them within our own lives? How do we decide which way to go?

I pose these questions because I have hit a major crossroad in my life. Which way I am going. Is this the right path? Will the path I chose be in my best interest as a sober woman?

Right before my sobriety, I left a fairly lucrative job. I left my macrocosm and began to weave myself tightly into a secure web. I surrounded myself with support. I left friends, lovers, and acquaintances behind. I brought my life down to a manageable scale. This enabled me to live well. To live sober. I became a large fish in a small pond. I took turns in my life I had no idea existed. I painted. I wrote. I lived through my sobriety with commanding grace and awareness. Yet, through this growth, I suddenly realized that I missed the largeness in my life. I decided I wanted to become a big fish in a big pond. And succeed where I had succeeded before. This time, sober.

And now, here I stand. At a professional and personal crossroad. My life is full. My sobriety has become part of my skin, my beauty in life. Yet, I feel as if my big world is enticing me to return.. Take bigger risks. Go back into a profession I deeply loved. Return to a world I only knew when drinking. And return sober.

Am I strong enough to return back to the pace I kept, the largeness I once embraced while drinking with now sober arms? Can I maintain the integrity and passion I feel for sobriety? Can I walk down this path with new steps?

How do we as sober women deal with the crossroads in our lives? The major decisions that help define our everyday lives? How do we successfully pick the right path without jeopardizing the time we’ve spent securing the road we are on?

6 comments:

Trudging said...

Pray and call your sponser.

Grace said...

YOU could move a mountain Lady, go for it! You have enough sobriety to know if its being comprimised by work pressures? Good luck with whatever you decide ;-)

JJ said...

Hi BlueSky Gal - Take the leap. You have enough soberity under your belt. I waited almost a full year before I decided to quit one of my jobs. Best decision I've ever made. Dream as if you'll live forever. Life as if you'll die today.
Peace,
JJ

Anonymous said...

Wishing you the best of luck in whatever you decide to do!

Namenlosen Trinker

johno said...

"Act as if" you are going to change path, seek out all options, do the research, apply for it. No harm in applying. Give yourself maximum choice. You can always change your mind later, decide not to change, if you dont like what you find.

Put in the footwork & let go of the outcome.

Anonymous said...

Hmm, I'm at the other end. Deciding whether my current career gives me too much freedom to indulge my habits. And in sales, socializing is encouraged and puts me in places I shouldnt be if I want to do this.

I need a smaller pond. And supportive fishes. I'm going to the first meeting tonight.

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